Regina Calton Burchett – Drawings & Pastels

For Father’s Day, I wanted to post this while it was in my thoughts.

I think Father’s Day should be renamed Men’s Day. Not all men of worth are fathers, either by choice or by circumstance. And I’d like to celebrate the men in my life – my husband especially, and my fathers, my step-son and grandson, my brother and brothers-in-law, my nephews, son-in-law, male friends….

One of the things I like about men is their gentleness. When I see a man holding a baby or taking time to be patient with a fussing child, I admire their maturity and their generosity of spirit.

Another thing I admire is their bravery. They are brought up with the expectation that they must protect those they love and stand in the face of danger, even at times when this instinct may not come naturally.

And I have to say, I love their smell. After working outside or playing sports. (okay, not on a really hot day.)

I love their manners. A few decades back, I was walking down the street in Austin and an older gentleman tipped his hat to me in passing. It made me feel honored. And recognized, in a way. I’ve been a feminist since the 60’s, but I love for a man I’m with – or even better, a young man I’ve never seen – to open a door for me. I do the same for them, if the situation merits. It is just a kind thing to do. And respectful.

I love that men try. They try to understand what women want. They try to be thoughtful and to live up to all of the myriad things expected of them. They try to change with the times, knowing they are giving up some things and hopefully realizing they are gaining more options also. We expect them to be strong yet tender, respectful of our opinions, intelligent and funny while being good listeners, attractive and ingenious lovers but always faithful, to excel at sports plus be great at their job. A lot is expected of men.

And I’m grateful for them – for their similarities and their differences. Young and old, white and black, straight and gay, poor and rich. I think we don’t say it enough – we appreciate you for all that you are. Happy Men’s Day.